when you get overwhelmed, stop and take a deep breath. if you feel it coming like a soft hurricane the way i do, try to get outside or drink a glass of water. lists and gentle music help me get things done more effectively. so does turning off the wifi.
accept that at some point or another, some sort of mom guilt will come pouring into the back of your mind. acknowledge it, and then send it on it’s way. (inevitably, it will return, but i imagine if you greet it calmly it won’t be as scary.) remember that none of us do motherhood perfectly. give yourself grace, and when you’re having a really rough day, try to do better tomorrow.
don’t say yes to everything. try not to associate your success in life with how busy you’ve allowed yourself to become. practice saying “no thank you,” instead.
becoming a mother may have made your body grow, shrink, soften, or sag, and there’s nothing wrong with that. you don’t owe anyone some kind of crusade to gain back a six-pack, and you don’t need to take selfies of your biceps unless that makes you happy. you are not a better mother for being more fit, and your body was not made for the viewing pleasure of others. i am trying so hard to learn this still.
a bath or a shower can totally start your day over.
try to create a routine that works well for your family, and see if you can be consistent with it. when we know what to expect out of our day, it always goes more smoothly. our family as a whole is happier when we simplify our life and the rhythms within it.
you’ve got this. x